IS there only one love?

So for most people their relationship is count is far higher than one and because of that we have alot of people calling their first relationship their first love. does that mean we have multiple loves? or one true love? I'm sure like al lthe things I talk about its open to interpretation and varied opinions so all I can do is give mine. I've been in love three times. Some might say I fall in love to easily or I don't know what love is but this blog is all about delving into love so we'll exclude not knowing what love is as one of these possibilities. I know this much. When your in love you feel on top of the world like nothing can hurt you and when it ends everything can hurt you. I've been in more than three relationships and know what it feels like to be with someone and not love them so I know there is a distinction. So can we have multiple loves before we're happy? I know it's a possibility because of the fact that I have felt the before and after and the number one thing that helped have other loves was the ability to hope for future love...for the future of all loves, that just because I was in love and now I am not it doesn't mean that I couldn't be in love again. SO here we are...Is there only one love? No (opinion) Love is unique..it's ever changing... and Love is what keeps us living whether it's our love for others or theirs for us. Every Love is different and I wouldn't change any of mine for the world.

does love always have to end in heart break?

Your sitting there one day on a park bench. Hand between your lovers and holding her close envisioning what people might: marrying and settling in a brownstone on the upper east side of manhattan, sailing away into the aegian, or having the best sex of your life because its someone you want it from when suddenly your dreams..your fantasies..what could have even been close to reality are shattered with the words no person wants to hear: " I don't want to be with you anymore". O this can take many hapless forms: " I think we should see other people, I need a break", or even the most famous, " It's not you its me" line. Now before we get ahead of ourselves its imparative to understand, saying these things is absolutely necessary if they are what you feel no matter how much you hurt the person. I'm not saying you should be a heartless, uncaring pig but to not be completely honest is wrong and misleading. So today's question in the search for understanding comes into play. Does love always have to end in heartbreak? I won't lie it's not easy. In fact it is very hard to not be bitter and begrudge the person who spurns your affections but neither of those words are definites which means it isn't impossible. It takes a power greater than most to accept that it takes anger and malice to hold together a grudge but the effort it takes to be optimistic not only flows easier but feels easier in comparison. I'm no saint and I'm no perfectionist but I try my best to make this effort in all my relationships the only problem is most people...or exes don't reciprocate this emotion..one can only hope that the effort is enough... to start. Does love always have to end in heartbrak? No it doesn't but it usually seems to. The anger heartbreak resonates is what people feel in their time of pain so realizing then and their that they have things to look forward has to be the first step to fostering hope.

What is love?

I'm no expert. I'm no thesaurus. What I am as a person like any other. With likes and dislikes, Differences and similarities, experiences and lack of experiences. What I do know is that life is too large to examine every little detail with a fine toothed comb, but the things that everyone have or yearn to have in common are what deserve observation. It's not hard to see that what we all want on some basic human level is to love and be loved..but the question is: What is love? pause and rewind. What happened to examining whats important? Well in order to really understand anything with a certainty you have to start by simply asking questions. So again...What is love? Well I have no intention of answering that question within a single blog or with a simple answer because the idea of love is profound and deserves enough respect and dignity to be explored in every facet. But one has to start somewhere and it doesn't get any simpler than sex. By no means am I implying that sex is simple but in respect to love it is the simplest to comprehend, delve into, and even practice. Sex is often referred to as "making love" so the derivation of this would mean that when the passion between two people manifests as a physical union of their bodies in an act that is meant to yield pure physical bliss its safe to say that even if people that have sex aren't in love.. they are making love. Now when I said sex wasn't simple I meant it. Like love,in theory its simply just the thrusting of a man's manhood into a woman's pleasure center, but there are many forms and those forms create a multitude of symbolism with the overall central form of sex conveying that idea of pure joy and bliss...like what people believe love to be.I'm sure none would abstain from trading emotional love for its physical counterpart. As a man achieves his moment of climax or a woman achieving an orgasm in fits of passion while rapped in physical embraces that would make the knots in pretzels jealous but both of those components of love gain understanding from exploration, and yet...the question. One last time: What is love? Love is complicated and Like everyone else whether they admit to it or not... I'm on a journey to find it.